I recently had a good friend of mine tell me that their recent married life was very difficult. I really did feel for them, almost to the point of tears. This could be because I pretty much knew from the engagement time that this couple would not be happy together. My question is: what would God say about this, especially these days. I know that the Bible says the only reason for divorce is unfaithfulness. I also believe that any kind of abuse is reason to leave your spouse. But what if you know almost right away that you made a mistake and married the wrong person? Is it okay to call it quits or do they need to suffer the consequences? These days, sometimes you hear more about divorces than you do weddings or lasting couples. Don't get me wrong, my biggest dream in life is to marry the greatest man in the world! But when you have a friend come to you and basically says they are unhappy, how do you respond? All I could say was, "Everyone's marriage is difficult and every marriage needs work." I felt like my answer was kind of cliche, but I didn't know what else to say. Should I tell my friend that if they ever need someone to talk to or vent to, they can always call me? In a way, I feel like it's none of my business and in a way, I feel like I should've said something before they actually went through with the wedding. I don't know...you tell me what to do.
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
The Honeymoon Does End
I recently had a good friend of mine tell me that their recent married life was very difficult. I really did feel for them, almost to the point of tears. This could be because I pretty much knew from the engagement time that this couple would not be happy together. My question is: what would God say about this, especially these days. I know that the Bible says the only reason for divorce is unfaithfulness. I also believe that any kind of abuse is reason to leave your spouse. But what if you know almost right away that you made a mistake and married the wrong person? Is it okay to call it quits or do they need to suffer the consequences? These days, sometimes you hear more about divorces than you do weddings or lasting couples. Don't get me wrong, my biggest dream in life is to marry the greatest man in the world! But when you have a friend come to you and basically says they are unhappy, how do you respond? All I could say was, "Everyone's marriage is difficult and every marriage needs work." I felt like my answer was kind of cliche, but I didn't know what else to say. Should I tell my friend that if they ever need someone to talk to or vent to, they can always call me? In a way, I feel like it's none of my business and in a way, I feel like I should've said something before they actually went through with the wedding. I don't know...you tell me what to do.
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That's tough and I think you did the best you could in the situation. The only other thing to do is offer them your help and let them know you are there for them.
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